Raising Boys vs. Raising Men


We’ve all heard the phrase “Boys will be boys” when a boy does or says something immature or silly. However, there comes a point when a boy becomes a man. However, having the characteristics and physical traits that a man has doesn’t make one a man it makes one a male. We need to make a distinction between men and boys. A guy can be well into his mid-20s, 30s, 40s or even 50s and still be a boy. This is due to the nature of his inability to emotionally, spiritually and psychologically mature. We cannot seriously say the phrase “he’s just a kid” for 18-40 year old guys. This phrase removes any responsibility or accountability for a guy’s actions by simply writing it off as “they’re just being boys” or “they’re just being kids.”  That argument won’t hold any water in the court of law and it most certainly doesn’t in our day to day dealings with others. Our actions and words have consequences. Every action has an equal or stronger reaction.


Yes, we’re all learning about life in every stage of our lives, but to not be in a mode of learning, self-reflection, self-improvement and introspection at every point in your life will not help you to mature. Many guys today simply live with their egos, lusts and desires. They seek to simply feed all three (ego, lusts, and desires) and don’t care if in their pursuit of self-gratification of harming others in the process. The guys I see today are obsessed with athletes, celebrities, movies, TV shows, food, and sports. This may not be the case for all youth, but is definitely a trend I see in our youth today. The question is how can we slowly transition these youth out of this mindset to a more mature mindset of thinking deeply about life, reflecting about how they’re living life, and how to better themselves every day? The Prophet Muhammad (SAW) was surrounded by youth who took on positions of leadership, took initiative and were key figures in the early history of Islam.

The question is, do we see that same level of maturity in our male youth today?

Sadly, many youth are growing up with this mentality of fast and simple self-gratification. These youth then become college students, then young professionals, and then husbands of families. Yet, as they may have progressed academically and career wise they still are emotionally, psychologically and spiritually at the level of a middle school kid. It’s scary to think that one day the youth that I see at the masjid and in our communities will be future husbands and fathers.


It’s easy to think and acts like a boy for all of your life. You can think that your actions and words have no consequences. You can think that everyone needs to respect you, demand respect from other and if anyone disrespects you you put them in their place by cussing them out or yelling at them. You can think that everything must come to you immediately. It’s sad to say though this type of behavior will not fly in the real world. If you have this boyish mentality in your school work, your work life, your family life, and with others you won’t live a very happy life. You’ll meet conflict after conflict, drama after drama and get yourself into more trouble than you want.


This is why I say there’s a difference between being a MAN and being a boy or simply thinking you’re a man because you’re male. A man is one who has good character, strong morals, ethics, and principles. A man is someone who is self-confident, respectful to others, builds people up and doesn’t tear them down. A man is someone who doesn’t demand respect, but earns it through his actions. A man is someone who respects women and doesn’t talk about them in a derogatory manner. A man is someone who doesn’t use bad language, yell at others or lose his temper. My question is where are the men today?


When I actually sat down to think about why there is such a level of immaturity in our male youth today I can only find one problem: bad parenting. Yes, there are different cases here and there that may be contrary to my finding, but at a core level the level of immaturity stems from bad parenting. If the father or mother doesn’t play a big role their son’s life by teaching him early on about ethics, morals, principles and values then how do you expect him to start adhering to them when he’s well into his teens? If a father doesn’t encourage his son to come to the masjid in his son’s early years and stress the importance of deen (Islam) in their lives how do they expect their sons to know the importance when they become 19 years old? We have parents going to imams, youth directors and the “cool uncle” and ask them “can you speak to my son? Can you encourage him to come to the masjid and remind him about Islam?” It’s sad that it’s come to this point where parents can’t even talk to their own children about their concern for the way they’re living their lives.


Another issue that leads to this immaturity is that we’re pampering our boys.We provide them early on with the latest gadgets, clothes, toys and demands early on and continue this trend into middle school, high school, and college. They learn to expect to get their demands at the drop of a hat. They feel entitled to certain things. They feel connected or attached to their gadgets and clothes. They feel that the latest brands are what make them better than others. They feel that can do whatever they want with no consequences.


This sets up our sons for failure in life. You can’t expect by giving your sons every luxury in this life at their fingertips while neglecting their Islamic education that they’ll be good human beings and successful in their lives. If you’ve given all the luxuries in the world to your son and not a firm understanding, appreciation and love of Islam then you’ve given your son nothing. We stress the dunya (this world) to such an extent to our sons that their entire lives are consumed by gadgets, clothes, TV shows, movies, etc. Lastly, as parents we can’t demand our kids to be more “religious” if we aren’t even practicing what we’re preaching. If you aren’t going to the masjid on a consistent basis, not reading Quran, not learning more about Islam how can you expect your son to take your request seriously?


We can no longer afford to continue this trend or it will hurt our community and our world. We cannot look and say in retrospect “where did I go wrong?” when our sons don’t listen to us, or they go down the wrong path or don’t listen to you when you tell them they should go to the masjid. We reap what we sew. “It’s easier to build strong children than repair broken men” as Franklin Douglass said. We cannot easily reverse years of lack of guidance and nurturing after-the-fact of realizing the wrong we did. Sadly, for most of the immature boys we have in our community it will take a tragic event or a life-shaking event to open their eyes to change their ways, wake up and mature. I pray it doesn’t come to that and may Allah protect us from tragic events (ameen), but it will take something to shake them to wake them up to change their ways and become mature adults and men.



We need to begin raising men and not simply raising boys. We need well-balanced men who live their lives with purpose, with a vision, with a mission, and understand how to live their lives with balance. We need men who live with a strong understanding of their Islamic identity, morals, ethics and values. We need men who can become strong husbands for their families. We need men who can protect our women from the ugliness of the world. We need men who can become strong leaders for our communities.


We need men, not boys. No more “boys will be boys,” let them be MEN.


The Need to Build a Merciful and Caring Community



Note: This is a reminder to myself first and foremost. May Allah protect us all from the traits of hypocrisy and the acts of hypocrisy and may our words match our actions. Ameen.


Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: “I swear by Him in whose hand is my soul, if you were a people who did not commit sin, Allah would take you away and replace you with a people who would sin and then seek Allah’s forgiveness so He could forgive them.” [Sahīh Muslim (2687)]

It’s apparent that Mankind is created imperfect and that we will fall, we will make mistakes and we may stray. The key however is to always turn back to Allah, repent and ask for forgiveness from Him.


“A servant [of Allah’s] committed a sin and said: ‘O Allah, forgive me my sin.’ And He (glorified and exalted be He) said: ‘My servant has committed a sin and has known that he has a Lord who forgives sins and punishes for them.’ Then he sinned again and said: ‘O Lord, forgive me my sin.’ And He (glorified and exalted be He) said: ‘My servant has committed a sin and has known that he has a Lord who forgives sins and punishes for them.’ Then he sinned again and said: ‘O Lord, forgive me my sin.’ And He (glorified and exalted be He) said: ‘My servant has committed a sin and has known that he has a Lord who forgives sins and punishes for sins. Do what you wish, for I have forgiven you.’”

(Muslim, Bukhari)


Allah has created Mankind with proportion and beauty that He placed in us. We are unique beings that Allah created with Allah’s perfection, but what makes us imperfect is our nafs, desires, lusts and human needs and wants. We are not angels who are pure, but strive for purity and closeness to Allah.


Muslims are those who believe in Allah and His Messenger the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) and strive to better themselves every day. This is the very basic definition of a Muslim. Yet we are fallible, we make mistakes and will fall in our lives. However, our community makes it hard for those who sin, fall or make mistakes to forgive themselves and also seek the forgiveness of Allah. We’ve become a community that is quick to condemnation and anger, but slow to mercy, leniency and forgiveness. The Prophet Muhammad SAW was a mercy to all the worlds, yet we fail as a community to exhibit this virtue of mercy. We demand perfection from imperfect individuals and when they do slip up or make a mistake we jump on those individuals without even giving them a chance to explain themselves or defend themselves. We fail to look for excuses for our brothers or sisters. Thus, we see our Muslim brothers and sisters repelled from the masjid at first, then the Muslim community, then Islam all together.


Our community is facing immense pressures and is not immune to the challenges and problems other ethnic, racial and religious communities are facing. The Muslim community has issues ranging from domestic violence, drug addiction, pornography addiction, failing family structures, divorce, and the list goes on and on. We fail to understand that Muslims are not immune from these issues. We cannot naively think that “A Muslim would never do ______.” It’s a reality that Muslims are human beings with weaknesses just like anyone else. We will fall, we will make mistakes and we most certainly will sin. What makes it difficult for Muslims to recover from sin and their shortcoming is the quick condemnation or repulsion by their fellow brothers and sisters. This is further complicated and amplified by social media. A person can say one statement and it spreads like wildfire and may become a fitnah (trial) for someone’s faith in Allah or Islam. Thus, we need to watch what we say not only in person, but also online.


Imagine for a moment on the Day of Judgment Allah asking us about a fellow Muslim brother or sister who was seeking to come closer to Allah but through our actions we repelled them from Him and either stopped coming to the masjid or left Islam all together. This is the reality we are facing. The 10% of Muslims who are practicing Muslims who bicker over trivial issues, while the 90% of Muslims are struggling with their faith is not productive at all. Now the percentages aren’t scientific or based on research, but are only to illustrate a point. It’s not to say that we shouldn’t’ have discussions or education about Islamic rulings on certain topics regarding actions and worship, but at the same time we need to be ensuring we’re not insulating ourselves and making an exclusive club of practicing Muslims which totally neglects other Muslims who are struggling with their faith.


We need to have scholars talking and educating the practicing Muslim community, but scholars and the Muslim community shouldn’t have a Haram Police attitude towards the 10% practicing community and the 90% of Muslims who are non-practicing. This repels everyone away from Islam and Allah. This is not to say we need to totally ignore any haram actions or accept any non-Islamic actions, but we must realize that everyone is on their own spiritual path and is struggling in their own way, thus we need to be sure that we are bridges to Allah and not obstacles to Allah. When people see us they should be reminded of the Prophet SAW and not repelled and disgusted by Islam due to our actions.


We must take a nuanced approach to giving beautiful advice to correct our brothers and sisters in a way that is genuine and done with the intention of their well-being. Our community has a long way to go when it comes to discussing and creating safe spaces to discuss various challenges our communities are facing and creating warm and welcoming communities that welcome the 90% of non-practicing Muslims.


Below are a few tips on how we can create a more welcoming and merciful community:


1)      Work on Our Own Spiritual Condition


“To put the world in order, we must first put the nation in order; to put the nation in order, we must first put the family in order; to put the family in order; we must first cultivate our personal life; we must first set our hearts right.”


Before pointing fingers at anyone we need to start with ourselves and take inventory of our strengths and weaknesses and where we are on our spiritual path. Change comes from within and starts at the individual level. Educate yourself more about Islam via legitimate sources of knowledge.


2)      Think Well of Others


When we do step 1 we’ll realize that we have a lot of weaknesses we need to work on and the next brother or sister may be dealing with more or less the same weaknesses you are, thus sympathize or empathize with them at least and realize that we’re all on a spiritual journey and the key is to keep each other on that path of self-improvement and self-discovery.


3)      Realize We’re all Imperfect and at Different Levels of Understanding of Islam


We need to realize that we’re all imperfect and have different understandings of Islam. We all don’t have a perfect understanding of Islam and learn something new every day and should seek to understand the Quran and Sunnah better. However, if someone does an action that isn’t in line with the Quran or Sunnah we shouldn’t be quick to condemn them and repel them completely. Rather, advise with a beautiful reminder and do so privately without embarrassing them.


4)      Avoid Rushing to Issue a Fatwa or Condemnation/Avoid the Emotional Knee-Jerk Reaction


If you’re reading this chances are you’re not an imam, scholar or a mufti. If you are, then this advice doesn’t’ pertain to you!

Yahyaa ibn Sa’eed said: Ibn ‘Abbaas said: “Everyone who issues fatwas to the people concerning everything that they ask him about is crazy” (Malik)

Sahnoon ibn Sa’eed said: the most audacious of the people in giving fatwas is the one who has the least knowledge; a man may have a grasp of one branch of knowledge and he thinks that all the truth is to be found in this branch. 

 Thus, most Muslims are in no position to issue a fatwa or condemnation of another Muslim without knowledge. If we truly want a fatwa from a legitimate scholar, go ask for one from various scholars and make your decision based on those fatwas. Also, we need to not react emotionally or in a state of anger towards certain issues, but must do so with wisdom, knowledge and understanding.


5)      Advise Your Brother or Sister with Sincerity (If You Care for their Well-Being)


The Prophet SAW said: “Religion is (sincere) advice.”They said, “For whom?” He replied, “For Allaah, His Book, His Messenger and for the leaders of the Muslims and their masses.” [Muslim]


We need to ensure that when we do give advice to others we are doing so with good intentions and with the intention to see our fellow brother or sister’s spiritual, emotional, psychological and social well-being. If our intentions don’t meet those criteria then it’s best not to give advice.


6)      Advise in Private


The Muslim for another Muslim is a mirror, but also shields his or her faults from public. Thus, if we truly love and care for our brother or sister we should advise them in private and not embarrass them in public. This is adab is lost quickly on social media with it being extremely easy to type a few words of spite or condemnation of our brother or sister.



7)      Realize There are Legitimate Points of Views on Different Matters


We need to avoid taking a “my way or the highway approach” when it comes to Islam. Obviously this doesn’t pertain to the core beliefs of Islam: Allah’s oneness, not associating partners, belief in the Last Day, etc. However, when it comes to other issues that are interpreted differently by legitimate scholars we need to humble ourselves and not become arrogant and flippantly try to say our way of thinking is correct and everyone’s is wrong.


8)      Keep it Humble


The biggest problem we have today is keeping ourselves humble and ensuring that we don’t become arrogant when dealing with others. This is easier said than done and is a constant and daily struggle. A simple way to keep it humble is to totally humble ourselves in front of Allah and increase our taqwa.


Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) said, “One who weeps out of fear of Allah, will not enter the Hell till milk returns back in the udder; and the dust raised on account of fighting in the path of Allah and the smoke of Hell will never exist together”.


9)      Avoid Backbiting, Slander and Gossip


This happens all too often on social media with one link or video which may be taken out of context or may outright be fake or false information. We need to ensure that we steer clear of these conversations online and offline as well.


O you who have believed, if there comes to you a disobedient one with information, investigate, lest you harm a people out of ignorance and become, over what you have done, regretful. (Quran 49:6)


10)  Speak Good or Remain Silent


Lastly, it’s best to always be aware of ourselves, our words and our actions because we don’t know the weight of our words or actions and the impact it may have on someone or ourselves.


Abû Hurayrah relates that Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said: “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should speak a good word or remain silent. And whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should show hospitality to his neighbor. And whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should show hospitality to his guest.” [ Sahîh al-Bukhârî and Sahîh Muslim ]


.The Prophet (SAW) said: “A man might speak a word without thinking about its implications, but because of it, he will plunge into the Hellfire further than the distance between the east and west.” [ Sahîh al-Bukhârî and Sahîh Muslim ]


This is not to say we shouldn’t speak up for justice for ourselves or others or to condemn evil, but when it comes to criticisms of people it’s best to speak good or remain silent because or words very well may repel them from Allah and disgust them and have them reject Allah and His message all together.


11)  Discuss Don’t Debate


Debates are a waste of time and lead to ego-boosting and bad-blood. This is not to say we should totally throw out debates, but there is a time and place for them. Discussions however are much more productive than debating. We need to try to have discussions with those with opposing views than ourselves and seek to find where our brothers and sisters are coming from rather than approaching them with a heavy-handed approach.


12)  Be Quick to Forgive, Show Leniency and Mercy


Our initial reaction to an un-Islamic act is to ridicule, mock or condemn an individual. We need to avoid this.

Anas Bin Maalik said:

While we were in the masjid with the Messenger of Allah, a Bedouin came; he then urinated in the masjid.

The Companions of the Messenger of Allah said, “Mah Mah (An expression used to severly scold someone, to indicate the graveness of a matter).”

The Messenger of Allaah said, “Do not put a halt to his urinating, but instead leave him.”

They left him alone until he finished urinating.

The Messenger of Allah called him over and said to him, “Any kind of urine or filth is not suitable for these masjids. Instead they are only [appropriate] for the remembrance of Allah, the Prayer, and the recitation of the Qur’aan,” or this is near to what the Messenger of Allah said.

He (saw) then issued an order to a man from the people, who then came with a bucket of water, which he poured over the [effected] area [of the masjid].

[Related by Muslim in his Saheeh, 285]

Our brothers and sisters have done lesser than this, yet we’re quick to fight them, argue, debate, scold and condemn them. We must exhibit mercy, wisdom, love and caring as the Prophet SAW did. Reflect on his seerah, live his life. Be a walking Quran!


13)  Build Up, Don’t Tear Down


If you see a problem within an organization or a brother or sister don’t be quick to tear them down, ridicule or mock them. We will move nowhere as a community if we continually tear each other down, viciously criticize, mock, ridicule and condemn our own brothers and sisters. If we truly loved for our brothers (and sisters) what we love for ourselves we must give positive criticisms in a beautiful manner.


14)  Be Mature about Accepting Criticisms and Difference of Opinions


Lastly, we must show maturity when it comes to accepting criticsms and and differences of opinions and different viewpoints. We are all created differently, have different life experiences and yes we will have different points of views and opinions on things. The key to accepting criticisms is to accept them with grace and dignity. When one responds with rejection of the criticism or acts or responds defensively it isn’t productive at all. Regardless if the criticism is done in an inappropriate manner one must not stoop to the level of their critic. If the criticism is genuine and for your wellbeing say alhamdulllilah that one cares for your wellbeing and thank them.


15)  Don’t Hide Behind “Don’t Judge Me”


As a community we will get no where if we continually seek to ignore our weaknesses and faults and hide behind the phrase “don’t judge me.” For more information about this topic please read this article by Dawud Walid.


16)  Create Safe Spaces and Dialogues

 We must create safe spaces in our masjids or outside our masjids in our MSA and at our homes to discuss challenges facing our community. Communication and dialogue is key to solving challenges facing our community. We will never truly understand where we are as a community and what personal problems people are facing if we don’t create environments in which people can seek help and at the very least mercy, love and caring in a warm and welcoming environment.

17) Make Islam Relevant to the Lives of Muslims

Lastly, we need to begin making Islam relevant to the lives of Muslims and begin understanding Islam within people’s socio-cultural contexts and personal conditions. We cannot afford to give blanket statements regarding the entire Muslim community without fully understanding their spiritual, emotional, political, emotional, social and psychological conditions. We have so many youth who are confused about Islam’s relevance to their lives—-we need to start providing them solutions to the many problems they face on a daily basis and give them the confidence in their Muslim identity and their religion to face the world.

18) Pray for Your Brothers and Sisters (And Yourself!)

Lastly, pray for your brothers and sisters and yourself. Ask for guidance, understanding of the Quran and Sunnah, wisdom, strength, taqwa, sakeenah, peace and happiness for you and your brothers and sisters. We all need more duas in our lives and the world needs it too. It is the least we can do for our brothers and sisters.



The Illusion of Freedom


We all believe slavery is a bad thing at any level. The enslavement of a man or woman to another man or woman is the most degrading thing ever. However, while we may think slavery of this kind has been eradicated, it really is still very much apparent in today’s society. It exists not  only in a physical sense, but a more social and psychological sense. We very much have chains on our wrists, chains on our minds, and are told to live cookie cutter lives according to how corporations, brand names, music, and movies and societal and cultural trends want us to live life. This isn’t to say culture is evil or society is completely evil, but there are very dangerous cultural and social trends that go against common sense and human nature.

We need to begin asking ourselves before we beat our chests as Americans that we’re the only country with freedom, liberty and justice for all and the ability to pursue happiness—are we TRULY free? Are you living a live as a slave to your desires/lusts, brand names, political parties, media, movies, magazines and socio-cultural trends?

1)      Are We Really Free?

We all remember the illogical statement when it comes to the Muslim world and the West where neo-cons would say “they hate us for our freedoms!”  But the question is are we truly free? Let’s forget the law enforcement and government’s erosion of civil liberties, civil rights and human rights in the US, but let’s talk about the virtual enslavement of the American population to brand names, cars, clothes, electronics, celebrity-worship/obsession, political party affiliations, etc.

Let’s give a small example of people when they say “Oh my Gosh, I can’t live without my Starbucks Coffee in the morning” or they say “Oh my Gosh, I would die without _______” These statements while exaggerated tell a lot about our psyche. Have we truly become so dependant on THINGS that we NEED them to survive? Are they really essential to our lives?

The things we own end up owning us.

We’ve become virtual slaves to almost everything and lost our ability to think for ourselves and  reflect on our spirituality, our emotional and physical health and our overall meaning in life. We become consumed in materialism and consumerism and make idols out of virtually everything. “I would die without my Iphone” or “I would die without…..” Seriously, people are dying without a lot of things in Africa and the third world and they certainly are not because of their lack of Iphones. Our so-called first-world problems really aren’t problems at all.

If this is what we call freedom then we are sadly misguided. So when we say we are free, are we truly free? Are we forcing our definition of “freedom” on others?  What is true freedom? Why is your  freedom better or more valid than someone else’s freedom? If they decide to live their lives a certain lifestyle different than yours does it make it any less better than your freedom?

2)      What is Freedom?


Everyone’s definition of freedom is different. A woman who decides to wear hijab or cover themselves modestly decides to do so because that’s their definition of freedom. On the other side of the spectrum we have those who decide to completely walk around completely naked or decide to pursue a lifestyle of promiscuity. Other guys decide to live lives of promiscuity too and party and decide to sleep with every girl that comes across their path. These are all varying definitions of “freedom” of people.

So what is freedom if we force our definition of freedom on others? To be truly free is to be free from others’ definitions of freedom, freedom from desire, lust, evil thoughts/actions, political oppression, economic oppression. True freedom is when you break free from all of these things and become your own person and stop submitting yourself to brand names, social trends, political trends and submit yourself to Allah and His laws. This is not to say to do so blindly, but with deep reflection, introspection and thought. Many times people say “believe with blind faith.” In Islam, there is no blind faith, there is faith with introspection, thought, and reflection. You don’t simply just blindly believe in Islam. You experience it.

Allah is the only One worthy of praise and worship and transcends all other gods we put in our lives: our desires, lusts, job statuses, nationalities, races, etc. Islam solves the solution to all of these things and asks you to break away from nationalism, desires, consumerism, materialism, injustice, and oppression. If you don’t believe me, you don’t need to look farther than the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him)’s last sermon:



3)      Our Cattle Mentality

We as a people have lost our ability to think. We’ve lost our ability to be our own individuals. We are told what to wear, what to eat, what new electronics to buy, etc. We become so consumed by social trends and fashion trends that we completely lose our sense of thinking. Do we really NEED to buy that food, do we REALLY need to buy that Iphone, do we REALLY need to watch that movie on the opening night?

Is this really freedom or are you a slave to these things?  

We follow blindly without thinking. This is dangerous and can lead to disillusionment and virtual our emotional, spiritual and physical health diminishing greatly.

4)      Our Tribal Mentality

We often times call ourselves “modern” or “civilized” but in essence we very much so define ourselves by certain things. We define ourselves by race, religion, gender, age, ethnicity, city, state, neighborhood, schools, etc. When we live our lives we decide to amplify one of those many identities and it becomes our primary identity. It may be our religion, ethnicity, nationality or age or any other number of things and whenever someone doesn’t live the same lifestyle as you, you feel they’re odd, or a threat or a social outlier. What is wrong if someone simply is being. Can we not simply coexist and not let force others to be like us? We don’t need to actively go convert people to our lifestyle or religion. If you want to invite people to the beauty of your way of life, then do so with your character and manners.

Also, if someone doesn’t dress like you, drink and get drunk like you, party like you, smoke, and they don’t live your lifestyle then let them be. Simple let people be. Your definition of “freedom” is no better than any other person. If they decide to dress a certain way or NOT drink or party then it’s OKAY. There’s no need to attack, ridicule or mock someone.

It’s funny how we talk so much about peer pressure being a problem from Kindergarten to high school, but sadly, we still have this problem as young adults and adults.

5)      Cookie  Cutter Lifestyle

It’s sad that there is so much societal and cultural pressure to fit a certain lifestyle and if you don’t fit the mould you’re seen as a social outcast or an outlier. In today’s times the truth has become the lie and the lie has become the truth. So if someone speaks out against the dangers of interest in our banking system they’re seen as a threat, if someone speaks out against the dangers of drinking or smoking they’re seen as a Debbie Downer, if they speak out against social ills, civil liberties and human rights abuses done in the name of America they’re seen as unpatriotic.

What kind of society do we live in that we’ve got our morals, ethics and values so twisted?

We talk about peer pressure and tell our children to be themselves, but when we become adults we’re faced with the same peer pressure at an even greater level. For example, if you don’t drink or party you’re seen as a social outcast/outlier. If you don’t go to happy hour at your company you’re seen as weird and unable to socialize.

Who made these rules and who made these laws of society? Who made happy hours the epitome of social status or partying and drinking the norm of socializing? Who made these rules of how individuals NEED to live and HOW they need to live their lives?

 Is it really freedom if you’re forcing others to live the way you live?

Think people. THINK.

6)      We MUST Wake Up

We are all asleep and before it’s too late we’ll be lying on our deathbeds asking ourselves “What did I do with my life? Where did all of that time go? Did I live my life meaningfully? Was I slave to my desires and did I pursue noble goals or was I living solely for myself? Did I truly live a life of FREEDOM or a life of a slave to corporations, brand names,  my job, wealth, friends, etc.?”

Break free.  Break your chains and live a life of true freedom. Be a freedomfighter and break your chains from the illogical societal presures, your lusts/desires, the gods of materialism and consumerism, socio-cultural trends, brand names, and live a life of TRUE FREEDOM.

1. The mutual rivalry for piling up of worldly things diverts you,

2. Until you visit the graves (i.e. till you die).

3. Nay! You shall come to know!

4. Again, Nay! You shall come to know!

5. Nay! If you knew with a sure knowledge (the end result of piling up, you would not have occupied yourselves in worldly things)

6. Verily, You shall see the blazing Fire (Hell)!

7. And again, you shall see it with certainty of sight!

8. Then, on that Day, you shall be asked about the delight (you indulged in, in this world)!

-Surah At-Takathur (The Piling Up).

(Quran, Chapter 103: Verses 1-8)